Monday, April 14, 2008

Gene Simmons

So I was procrastinating writing a paper, playing my guitar learning some new songs...and I realized that one group of charismatic individuals are band frontmen. In particular, I was looking at a band all "All Time Low". I've never heard of them until today, but the body language, voice, etc. from the lead singer just makes him seem cool. It's the same case for all of these bands (Coba Starship would be another example). Look at the comments from people on YouTube; girls (I think...I hope) are breathless around them.

My brother has long thought Gene Simmons was a bad ass. I didn't understand why. I caught a few episodes of Celebrity Apprentice a while back and figured it out. If you get a chance, watch how this guy interacts with people. He's VERY good. Charismatic? I have no other way to describe it. If you wanna be a rock better be charismatic.

I guess there is some practical application for my inquiry after all. :)

Wednesday, April 2, 2008

Tom Brady on Models

This morning I was listening to Collin Cowherd on ESPN Radio and he mentioned a recent interview that New England Patriot QB Tom Brady did. In it, he talked about his tips for dating models, and essentially the goal is to create an imperfect or flawed date. If there is something wrong with the date then the girls wonder maybe what they did wrong or want to go out again to make it 'perfect'. I really don't have any source materials to cite for this one but I found it interesting. Tom Brady is a superstar and has dated several celebrities and models, including currently underwear model Giselle Bundchen.

He's good looking, have money, fame and status and thus has several key tools at his disposal. But his advice is solid nonetheless. It's about creating that slight cognitive dissonance...that issue with the date that makes the girl go "what, why is this time different". Perhaps it comes down to the idea of being mysterious. In any case, it was a pretty cool little tidbit about the well known QB that I think everyone could learn a little bit about human behavior from.

Friday, March 28, 2008


I think I've committed a grave crime...the one of neediness. Last week I mentioned that I met a couple of fantastic girls, one of whom I've had the opportunity to hang out with. She really is amazing - college athlete, into sports and technology, fun, and definitely cute. We hang out and things went pretty well. The next day, however, as she was on her way to spend the night with her friends I indicated that she could always come over to my 'empty' house. I later sent another message trying to negate this, but the damage may have already been done.

Hopefully I'll be hearing back from her soon. She's a really cool girl and someone I'd like to spend more time with. I gotta get my head straight.

Changing Opinions

First impressions are king! It's a fact, that people tend to not change their initial opinions of someone. If you think someone is cocky and stuck-up, that probably won't change; nor if their creepy, or perhaps a 'fun' person.

Recently one of my classmates and coworkers told me that when he first met me, he knew that he wouldn't like me. Just taking a look at my face, he thought we wouldn't get a long. Well, according to him, I am perhaps the only person that has managed to change this initial opinion of his. Pretty cool...I'm not sure why, perhaps maybe my authentic self shined through.

First impressions are still important, as I doubt this situation will replicate hardly ever again.

Sunday, March 23, 2008

Just Having Fun

So I've actually been fortunate enough to meet some very nice girls in the last couple of days. On Thursday I was at the bar and met a cute girl whom I chatted with, exchanged numbers and then later (and prying her away from my friends) we danced. It was good.

Last night, I met another really awesome girl. I was just playing beer pong with some friends and there was a really cute Asian girl there. We'd never met and in fact I still don't know what she was doing there. Regardless, I was just having a good time, sporting a pink shirt in a den of roughnecks. At one point she pretty much halted our beer pong game so that she could get my number. It was pretty obvious as the activity in the room focused on us changing numbers. Later, she told met that she had a boyfriend, but also that she wanted to hang out...mixed signals? You tell me.

Anyways, after talking with the first girl more, it seems like something could be there. Cute (enough), good personality, only snag is that she goes to school an hour away whereas the second girl (currently taken for) lives in town. Oh's been a while since I've been on the dating game, and this is a pretty nice way to get back there.

I guess the important thing is that in both cases, especially the second night, I had no intent of picking up a girl or hitting on anyone. I just was LOUD, fun, and that exuberance payed off. That was the charismatic energy that I was going for. Look at the results. I've had it before, I've had it again...try to make sure I can do it all the time, 24/7.

Happy Easter everyone...find a cute girl and ask her to hunt for eggs with ya!

Thursday, March 20, 2008

Charisma Defined....Sort Of :-(

Last night I pretty much pulled an all-nighter studying marathon to get prepared for my final exam in a public speaking course. In the process, I found charisma defined by my text as:

"Charisma is a form of dynamism. A charismatic person possesses charm, talent, magnetism, and other qualities that make the person attractive and energetic.

Well isn't that just nifty. In my opinion it kind of runs around the definition without ever really describing it. I think the key words are actually "attractive" and "energetic", as those are the realized results of charisma.

This word really is hard to definitively define.


I am currently sitting in a classroom, proctoring the final exam for a senior-level college course. Throughout the course of the test I have mentioned the amount of time that is remaining, and it is quite something to see. Every time I open my voice, 30 heads simultaneously, immediately, shift from hunched down over their desk to up making eye contact with me.

It's powerful.

I guess this is what having that credibility and being the center of attention must be like all of the time. I could get kinda used to this.